Busy Bathrooms

One of the advantages to homeschooling is that we don't have to rush everybody out the door every morning at the crack of dawn to get them to school or a babysitter. Our kids are expected to be clean and dressed every morning, but there is more time to get them that way than in the average household. This comes in very handy when you stop and consider that we have five kids and two bathrooms. Needless to say, the bathrooms can become very busy places if we all have to be ready at the same time. And this is exactly what happens every Sunday morning.

In our house, the master bathroom is bigger than the kids bathroom. In our modern architectural mindset, this is standard operating procedure but a rather stupid idea when the kids outnumber the parents. I guess most houses aren't built with that situation in mind, so it's really our fault for not conforming to the whims of the architects. Regardless, we have two bathrooms and the big one is in Mommy and Daddy's bedroom.

A few weeks ago I caught myself experiencing the family's love of Mommy and Daddy's bathroom first hand as I was trying my best to help get kids out the door with myself looking somewhat put together for church. The kids' bathroom is a one-man-show. The shower door is opaque and we are trying to teach the kids modesty. That means one at a time. The big bathroom, on the other hand, is really not that big, but  it does have a separate shower and tub, so we can pull double duty with the younger ones. In order to maximize its use, I put a curtain across the middle of the room dividing the shower and toilet from the sinks and tub. With that in place, someone can take a shower with complete privacy while the littlest ones are taking a bath.

Now that you have the picture of the situation, let me get to the specifics of last weekend. I was brushing my teeth while a couple of kids splashed in the tub. No big deal, I can mange this. Then Maddie came running in. "I have to pee and Zach's in the other shower!" Unfortunately, the curtain rod that provided pee privacy had broken and the curtain kept falling down.

Thinking fast, I picked up the curtain rod and held it into place so Maddie could pee. Keep in mind the toothbrush is still in my mouth, but at least I can reach the sink from where I was standing. Then Mommy came in to work on Cami's hair (which, incidentally, is a daily chore in itself.) Now we have two in the tub, one on the pot, a toothbrush in my mouth and a curtain rod in my hand plus Mommy and Cami working the hair angle. At this point, Zach is the only one not in the big bathroom. Needless to say, it's crowded.

Apparently, Zach's shower was just about done when all this started, because as I held the curtain for Maddie, Zach appeared dressed and ready to go. "What's up, Bud?" I asked casually as can be.

"I'm just emptying the trash," he replied. Darn those responsible kids and their chores.

Realizing that the trashcan was next to the occupied toilet I gave him a pass. "Skip it for today," I said. "The trash will still be there tomorrow."

Sensing a family gathering, one of the cats decides to join the party. As my hands are up over my head affording Maddie her privacy and toothpaste is beginning to drool out the corners of my mouth, the cat chooses that moment to begin her weaving pattern around my legs. Deep breath. Slowly exhale. It could be worse. We could have an outhouse. Hey, that's not a bad idea.

If anyone cares to donate to the new bathroom fund, please send a check to my wife. Homeschool moms are always looking for more projects to do around the house.

Daddy's Favorite Restaurant

Anyone who knows me well knows that I am an official member of the unofficial In-N-Out Burger club. I have all the t-shirts from the last five or six years in my closet at any given time, including some that you can only get by ordering them online. As a matter of fact I got all my kids their own In-N-Out shirts for their birthdays last year.  With five kids to my credit, it comes in handy to be a fan of a place that sells such bovine delicacies at a reasonable price. 

The other day I was in a hurry to get out the door. I try to ride my bike to work two or three times a week and this was one of those days. Of course, that means I have to allow more time to get there, so I tend to leave earlier when I ride. The clock was ticking and there was no time to make a lunch, so I rushed to the freezer in the garage and went through the stack of frozen Lean Cuisine lunches. Inevitably, the only kind left was the kind I like least. (Some sort of Asian inspired sweet and sour chicken thing if you must know. It's about as far from an In-N-Out burger as you can possibly get while still remaining in the "food" category.) Apparently I had already eaten the ones that were worth eating, so now I was stuck.

As I was throwing the rock-hard Asian delight into my bag, my wife came out with something in her hands. "What's in your hands?" I asked

"Since I have to take the kids to the farm today, I thought we'd stop by In-N-Out for lunch," she said as she showed me the stack of In-N-Out gift certificates that the kids had earned from the library reading program. 

"While I eat this?" I said incredulously. I go off to work and earn money so our family can live and this is how I get thanked? Something is seriously wrong here.  She just smiled innocently, gave me a kiss, and sent me pedaling off. 

Don't worry. It gets worse. Just as I pulled my healthy chicken and rice bites out of the microwave at lunch time, my phone started vibrating in my pocket. I pulled it out only to discover it was my wonderful wife. (The very same one who had made me such wonderful pork roast and homemade rolls just last week.) She was giggling as she said, "You'll never guess what Ellie just said." 

"OK, I'm sure I won't. Fill me in." Keep in mind Ellie is the two-year-old. 

"We just pulled into the In-N-Out parking lot," she began. I again sadly looked down at my lunch and longed to join my family, if only for a moment. "When Ellie saw the sign she pointed at it and said 'Daddy!'" 

"I'm coming Ellie Bean, I'm coming," my heart longed to say. How could I disappoint such an adorable creature by not showing up at the very moment when she desires nothing more than to spend time with her daddy?

I talked with my wife some more and finally accepted the fact that I was not going to make the 45 mile trip to Temecula on my bike to join my family during my 40-minute lunch break. 

After hanging up, I returned to my now piping hot, low calorie,  frozen microwave meal and ate all three bites. Does anyone out there share my pain? 

Little Tease

Two-year-olds are notorious for mischief and mine is no exception. It’s usually around this time that parents really start to see personalities emerging as their brains start making connections that hadn’t been made before. A few days ago, our little Ellie Bean managed to show us a bit of her mischievous side.

We were enjoying a fabulous home-cooked pork roast with homemade dinner rolls the other night when Cami, our six-year-old decided she needed a refill on her glass of water. We all know that the cats may make a move on an unattended plate from time to time, but they never get far with so many hands at the table ready to shoo them away. What we didn’t know (until now) is that the two-year-old and the cats have a lot in common. While Cami was refilling her water, Ellie reached over and stole a bite of pork roast right off of her plate. That in itself is not much of a story. What she did next is where it got interesting.

With the small bite of pork in her hand Ellie started waving it in front of her and chanting “Sissy! Sissy!” As soon as Cami came back to the table, innocent little Ellie waved the stolen bite right in her sister’s face, said “Sissy” one more time then popped it into her mouth as a guilty grin spread across her face followed by a stereotypical two-year-old giggle. Apparently its time for Cami to start guarding her food a little more closely.

When bedtime came around, Ellie was still in her mischievous mood. Now, she knows that once she is put into bed, she is supposed to stay there, but somehow, that sinful nature seems to emerge once the lights go out. As Mommy and I were relaxing on the couch, we heard that same two-year-old giggle that we had heard at dinner coming from the girls’ room. Judging from the sounds we were quite certain that little Miss Innocent was not in her bed at the moment. This has happened before and it usually results in a swift paddling on the tooshie and a non-stop ride back to bed.

Apparently Ellie had planned this one out because as soon as I opened the door, she turned and looked at me with a deer-in-the-headlights look. She knew she had been caught. What I didn’t know was that she had a back-up plan. As I made my move toward her, she spun around, aimed her backside at me, patted her own tooshie, and said, “Poo-poo! Poo-poo!”

“Darn it,” I thought. “What kind of dad would spank a pile of turd and rub it into a kid’s bum before cleaning it up?”  Knowing she was probably right, I moved in to verify that her defense shield was indeed in place. Sure enough, it was there.

“Alright, Chick,” I said. “Bummy up.” With that she dutifully laid down on her back and raised her legs into the air so I could gain access to the necessary areas. After cleaning up the mess, I sent her back to bed with a stern warning that she was not to deploy her defenses again until morning.

Fortunately she complied, but I fear what she might pull next. 

Periodic Pyrotechnics

"Did you know that fifth graders are tested on the Periodic Table?" I asked my son. Though he is home-schooled, he still takes the state's standardized tests each year, mostly to make the charter school that supports our home-schooling efforts look better.

"How am I supposed to know the periodic table?" he asked feeling somewhat overwhelmed.

"Study it," I said. So he did. That's the beauty of homeschooling. No classroom, no rows of desks. Just enjoyment of learning. His studies started online and eventually led him to his favorite place on Earth, the library.

One Saturday afternoon I drove him to his home-away-from-home where he was greeted by name and handed his stack of books without even asking for them. With his favorite physical location being the actual library, his favorite cyber location must be the library website where he reserves books ahead of time so he can pick them up several times a week.

On this particular trip, he filled his basket with about 30 books with names like "He" and "O" and, his favorite,  "Uuo." "Did you get one book for each element?" I asked looking over his pile.

"No." he responded. His face already buried in a book, though he was still standing at the counter.

"So how did you decide which ones to get?"

"I just kept picking books about different elements them until my card was full."

"Makes sense," I said more to myself than to him since he was reading. "Don't you think we should check out those books?"

The librarian, sitting behind the counter glanced up, hands on the keyboard, and said, "What's your card number, Zach?"

With his face still in the book, Zach began reciting the 15-digit number. "00327426...." Frantically typing, the librarian recorded all the digits and started scanning bar codes to assign the books to him.

Some people might wonder if he actually absorbs what he reads if he's getting all those technical books at once. Well, I have evidence that he absorbs everything.

A few days ago while we were in the car, Zach piped up with one of his seemingly random questions. "If I held a flame up to a fart, would it burn?" he asked with genuine curiosity evident in his voice.

"Actually, yes," I replied. "What made you ask that?"

Now here's the part where I know he understands what he reads. Most kids these days would say something like, "This kid at school told me because his big brother did it." Others might say, "I saw it on YouTube." Not my son.

"Well," he began. "In a book I read about hydrogen it said that farts were made out of hydrogen sulfide. Since hydrogen is really flammable, I figured farts must burn."

"That makes perfect sense, but don't try it," I warned rather sternly. "You really don't want to get burned that way."

Then we switched to the sulfide part and talked about why they stink. You gotta love homeschooling!

What kind of random bits of information do your kids like to discuss? Let me know in the comments below.

Plumber's But

I have two items at the top of my "Least Favorite Chore List." They are in a dead tie and have remained firmly fixed in that position for at least the last 25 years. I developed a dislike for digging as a result of digging one too many holes for my dad as a teenager and I learned to hate painting the first time I tried it and realized the mess I had to clean up at the end was uglier than the unpainted wall that I started with. I hate them both equally, so I have allowed the number one spot on the list to remain a tie all these years.

Just below the coveted number one position held by painting and digging is number two: plumbing. Plumbing is best defined as a series of messes that result in mistakes which result in more messes. And that's what I got to do last weekend. Our kitchen faucet has been dying a slow death over the last few months. It's decline began with a few small drips. Then the fatal illness advanced to a stuck handle and finally to the low water pressure phase. Its fate was ultimately sealed a few days ago when my wife was shopping for food at Costco and found a new faucet. Right about now, the Costco faithful are all saying, "I know which faucet you got! We saw it in the coupon book last week." And you'd be right.

And that brings me to my story. Last Saturday I got to climb under the kitchen sink and try to put wrenches where wrenches don't fit as I forced my arms to bend at unnatural angles while water spontaneously poured down on my face.  I called upon my now eleven-year-old son a few times to help hold things up top while I turned things down below (usually the wrong way because I was disoriented lying on my back.) Did I mention that plumbing was number two on my "Least Favorite Chore List?" As I struggled with a non-compliant nut on the old faucet, I must have been grunting because my wife walked by and asked, "Do you need Zach to help you again?"

"Not unless he knows how to cuss," I replied. "Because that's all I need right now." Mom didn't send him. And that's when I realized what "Plumber's But" really is. Plumber's But, has nothing to do with ill-fitting pants. It's more closely aligned with Murphy's Law than with Levi Strauss. Plumber's But is the phenomenon that occurs when one is lying prone beneath a sink with arms entangled in a mass of pipes and suddenly realizes, "I had the nut ready to thread onto the bolt, BUT I dropped it" or  "BUT I was sure I left that wrench lying right on my belly so I could reach it easily the next time I needed it." Or my favorite, "These nuts were all standard sizes when I installed them ten years ago, BUT now they're all metric!"

There are a lot of BUTs that occur while one is plumbing, but the most frustrating one is "BUT I thought that connection was tight enough." Anyone who has ever been under a sink knows all about these inevitable annoyances.  As far as I'm concerned there really is no way to avoid Plumber's But. The best a man can do is hope the But doesn't rear its ugly head too many times as you lie on the bottom of a cabinet thinking this job is a real pain in the...neck.

What kind of chores are on your "Least Favorite Chore List?"

Blue Dress Socks

There comes a time in every man's life when he knows he is getting old. For some it comes in the form of gray hair showing up around the temples. For others, it might be a bald spot making its presence known. For others, it's when children hit significant milestones in life. I checked all three of those off my list a long time ago and still didn't feel that old, until last week. This was the week when I realized that I really am getting old.

The weather has been nice and the days are getting longer. Along with that, the yard maintenance hiatus I enjoyed during the winter has ended and spring is in full bloom. That means the lawn needs regular mowing and hedges need their semi-annual trim. One day last week I came home from work ready to tackle some of these pressing issues.

One of life's greatest joys is coming home at the end of the day and climbing out of the stuffy attire required in the workplace and into a comfortable pair of jeans. On this particular day, I picked a well-worn pair that would allow me to work freely in the yard without fear that my wife would scold me for ruining another pair of new jeans. It was as I was changing that I realized I was indeed old. One sign of old age that I haven't yet mentioned is that you start to care more about function and ease than about fashion.  That's why you see elastic waistbands and velcro shoes in vogue at IHOP between four and five every afternoon.

With the jeans in place and a t-shirt on, I glanced down at the dark blue dress socks that still remained from my previous attire and thought to myself, "Who cares?" No one was going to see my socks while I was trimming hedges so why bother changing them? Wearing blue dress socks with jeans and running shoes doesn't make you old. Not being embarrassed about it does. I must be old.

So, thirty-seven years into my life I can proudly and publicly say that I am not ashamed of my blue dress socks! Are you confident enough in your own manhood to join me in this? Will you stand up to all the trendy soccer moms and travel-ball dads and tell them that after five o'clock, fashion doesn't matter. It's my home and my yard, and, doggone it, they're my feet and I'll do with them as I darn well please. Long live the blue dress sock!

Exasperated

With five kids in the family, life can get hectic at times, but between my wife and I, we do a pretty good job of managing things. As a matter of fact, our household, with all its quirks,  runs more smoothly than many smaller households, primarily out of necessity. Even though our family works very well together, there are still days when Mom and Dad are just plain worn out. 

We were experiencing one of those worn out days last week. As we sat down to a lively dinner after a hectic flurry of activity that had dominated the day I playfully announced to the family that the parents were tired and that we were invoking the Proverbs 32 rule. If you are wondering what the Proverbs 32 rule is, well it can be found in Proverbs 32 and it says, "Parents, ignore your children in the Lord for this is right." 

"You can't ignore us!" four-year-old Justin said with a big grin. 

"Oh yes I can. I'm the dad," I replied. 

"I think it sounds like a great plan," Mom said. "I'm tired and want to pretend there are no kids tonight." 

"It doesn't say to ignore us," six-yer-old Cami said with a suspicious grin. 

"Sure it does," I replied. "Look it up." With that, our oldest son, Zach, jumped up and made a run for his Bible. 

"Hey!" he shouted from his bedroom. "Proverbs doesn't have a chapter 32. There's only 31 chapters!" Then he came out to the living room and turned the pages for a minute until he found what he was looking for. "Here it is," he said. "Ephesians 6:4. Fathers, do not exasperate your children."

Uh-oh, time to think fast. With no quick response forming in my head, I resorted to childhood rule #37. That's the rule that every kid learns on the playground while playing dodge ball: When something is coming at you hard and fast, get out of the way. 

"Are you sure there's no Proverbs 32?" I asked dodging the exasperation comment. "Maybe it's in First Hesitations."

"Daddy!" Cami moaned. "There's no First Hesitations, I learned that in Awana."

"Well, there should be," I said. "And it should say something about parents ignoring their children every once in a while."

"You can't ignore us," Justin reminded me with the grin returning to his face. 

"Somehow, I think you're right," I said. "Although sometimes it sounds like a good idea. How, 'bout Plan B?" 

"What's Plan B?" the kids asked. 

"Tomorrow night, you go to Grandma and Grandpa's for dinner while Mommy and Daddy go out to dinner with no kids!" And with that, the whole family was happy. 

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Ephesians 6:1 - Children, obey your parents in the Lord for this is right. 

Ephesians 6:4 - Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.